A large number of marriages today end up in divorce and at that particular time it may seem like the end of the world. The same way you fall in love is the same way love can fade in marriage and there is no need to hold onto something that is not making you happy.
Most people in failing marriages hold on because of children or assets. That should not be the case. Once a marriage fails and ends in divorce, there is nothing wrong with falling in love again.
Love is irrational that way, but one thing for sure, a life without love is sad and boring. Marriage is not a prerequisite for a happy relationship and you don’t need to rush into one to find out if your new partner is your fated soul mate. After divorce does not even bother about topics such “will anyone ever love me again” or “will anyone accept me with my children”. You will never find answers.
When it comes to the most stressful life events, researchers rank divorce as number two right after death of a spouse or child.
Ready to meet people? Here are expert rules in finding the match worthy of you.
1. Make sure you are actually after your ex and are ready to date.
The divorce may be legal in divorce papers, but that doesn’t mean you have completely moved on. That is understandable, but if you are still talking about them whether praising or hating them then you should think twice before dating.
2. Watch out for anyone who seems too perfect.
Yes, after a divorce you may feel the need for affection than your previous relationship. But you need to know that one of the red flags that a date doesn’t have good intentions is that they are flawless. The reality is that such people want to take advantage of you.
3. Forget what you think is your type.
You do not have the same type of clothes you used to wear when you were in high school. So why would you want the same type of dates? Divorce gives you the idea of looking for an ideal” type” of person in your mind. Be open and take time to understand what is important to you. You may be surprised that the person you end up with is the complete opposite of your” type”.
4. Don’t hide the fact that you have children.
If you have kids are open enough to tell your date. Children are an important part of someone’s life and they need to be acknowledged anywhere you go. A person who truly loves you will accept them. It is better to know if someone is not ready to deal with children at the beginning before you get emotionally attached.
5. Tell your kids about your dates. When and what to tell your children largely depends on their age. Kids under 15 should not be introduced to someone until you seriously dated for 6months.